I am sorry that I have been out-of-pocket for a few days. Our power went off on Saturday and it messed our internet router up and we had to wait to get our new one. So now everything is back to normal…
For the past few weeks, I’ve been struggling with disciplining my daughter. She had been listening to me by waiting when I wanted her to (we live on a main street and the cars scare the heck out of me), stopping dead in her tracks when I said “no,” etc. Now she is exhibiting disobedience and I was beginning to think that this was an early start to The Terrible Two’s. The problem with my thinking was that my child would listen to my husband with no problems. As soon as he said “no,” she would stop and do something else. Why was she not listening to me?! I’m sure you can imagine my frustration in this.
I always try to filter my patience through the knowledge that my child is only 19 months old, and with that comes certain limitations (i.e., I know and understand that she isn’t capable of producing behaviors of a 5 year old or 10 year old). But sometimes when we are in public, Brielle’s behavior isn’t where I want it to be, or not where it would be if her dad was around. I don’t want to be one of those mothers where the children walk all over her, but as soon as dad gets home they listen.
So, here is my revelation (which I give complete credit to God for helping me realize this): While at home, practice the behaviors that I want Brielle to perform. For instance, tonight we spent a few minutes practicing sitting, standing, waiting, and coming. I hope that this doesn’t sound like I’m training a dog, but it is efficient. This is akin to how a teacher establishes a routine at the beginning of the year: She takes two weeks to practice how she wants her students to behave in every situation possible (walking to the bathroom, lining up, transitioning between subjects, how to get the teacher’s attention, etc.). I am going to continue to practice with my daughter everyday so that she fully understands what I expect of her, especially in public (I don’t want her running away from me in a parking lot). I will definitely give updates to her and My progress.
What are some discipline techniques you use for your children? What works for you? Please comment below and share.